One of the more (albeit inadvertently) entertaining websites out there is Ask-Imam.com. Let's see what the good cleric has to say about this monthly dilemma.
Ask-Imam.com > Marriage (Nikah) > Question 13539 from United States
Can a Muslim send a marriage proposal to a Muslima within the time span of her idda?
As-salamu-alaikum Imam. My question is only about sending the marriage proposal. The proposal is intended to be sent to a Muslima who has started her idda. Can this proposal be sent to her before she has completed her idda? Please let me know the evidence from Islam to support your answer. Jazak Allahu Khair
Answer 13539
It is prohibited to send a proposal to a woman during her Iddah.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
This must lead to some rather . . . strained conversations. "I . . . I wish to ask for your hand in . . . marriage, unless . . . you know?"
"I . . . I know."
"Maybe next week?"
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Ask-Imam.com > Society and Culture > Question 11138 from Canada
If a non-mahram gives salaam to me, am I supposed to reply it quietly or loudly? I have heard its wajib to reply to a salaam.
Answer 11138
It is Waajib (compulsory) for a Muslim to reply to the salaam of a Muslim if there is no fear of Fitna and evil, for example, a Ghayr Mahram makes salaam to a male.
In such a situation where there is fear of Fitnah and evil, one should not reply to the salaam. It is not appropriate for a Muslim to display bad character and conduct in front of a non-Muslim. If a non-Muslim makes salaam, in principle, one should reply ‘Salaamun alaa manittaba’ alhudaa’ (May peace be upon those that follow guidance). One may offer an answer to the effect of the above with respect and dignity.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
I'm certainly glad we were able to clear that up!
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